Connect – You Can Lead

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What does it take to lead a small group? Not as much as you might think. Often when we think about leading a small group, we envision grand theological training and courses on leadership development, but the first step is simply being connected and surrendered to Jesus.

1. It Starts With You & Jesus
“I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.”- John 15:5

This really isn’t any surprise, but it is the first and most important step. Many times in our lives we try to put the cart before the horse. We will attempt to do mighty things for God, but we’re doing them on our own strength and not his. If we fall into this pattern with our small groups, it will be quite evident. Our groups will not be fruitful, and it will feel more like a task than a privilege. In all aspects of our lives, we’ve got to let God be God; small groups are certainly no exception.
If God is not first then, what’s the point?

2. You’ve Got to Really Love Your Small Group

When we talk about loving others so many different things can come to mind. Some of us think about putting on our “Christian” politeness, prim and proper. Some of us think about being very servant oriented, making sure everyone is comfortable,
well-fed, and watered. The love I’m talking about is the kind where you’re actually glad that
people are there.
Your heart opens in a way that they know they are wanted and valued.
Think about that friend you have who always loves you in a way that you know they want you there.
Or how it felt when you would go to your grandparent’s house as a child.
The goal isn’t to make others simply feel wanted, the hope is for you to open yourselves up to God’s love in a way that demonstrates you truly want
them there.

3. Vulnerability is Key, The Group Will Follow Your Lead

Most of us are bad at this naturally. We’re scared to trust people in our process. What I mean is this: most of us will gladly share hardships and difficulties in our lives, but only once we’ve figured them out. Our fear is we’ll look foolish talking about things others already know how to do. We also fear people will try to give us advice when we really just want someone to listen. As a leader you’ll have to risk being vulnerable because if you don’t take the lead in this who will? Vulnerability is essential because it is what makes small groups different from so many other
church activities.
Vulnerability is where the intimacy begins and
it will only start with a leader who sets
the example.
It sounds simple but these three things are really all you need to have a successful small group. Beyond this the groups can look as different as pizza and broccoli. If deeply belonging to others excites you please contact me, Erik Rasmussen, Director of Small Groups, or call me at 424-7771.